Happy new year!

I’d love to do an end of year round-up like a proper and serious blogger. You know: stats and reviews and thoughtful reflections (this is my 715th post, by the way… so there you go, the stats part is covered now…).

But I am waiting for family to arrive, we will spend the next few days together. I love them dearly, but expending social energy drains me of the wherewithal to put together cohesive thoughts here on the blog. It’s been a busy month.

So instead, I will say a heartfelt happy new year and thank you to all of … Continue Reading

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Being submissive can be scary

When I met my boy, he was scared, as many newbies are scared.

Scared that he wouldn’t know what to do ‘as a submissive’.

Scared that this D/s thing wouldn’t be what he expected.

Scared that the reality wouldn’t live up to what was in his head, in his imagination.

Scared that he wasn’t really submissive, that he was ‘faking it’ somehow, fooling himself.

Scared that he wasn’t really a masochist, that his fantasies over all those years were false.

Scared that he would fail me, not be what I wanted.

Scared that I would lose interest because he … Continue Reading

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Fragility

It is a warm and muggy summer’s day. We are having a short family holiday at a gorgeous surf beach not far from my family home. I have a small family here in this country. Which suits me just fine.

Today I woke early and hid for a while in my bedroom before coming out to grumpily make coffee and make nice. I love them dearly, but they are exhausting, a combination of me being an introvert and normally having the luxury of as much alone-time as I please.

Terrible jazz music, my father’s choice, is playing loudly in the … Continue Reading

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e[lust] #42

Welcome to e[lust] – The only place where the smartest and hottest sex bloggers are featured under one roof every month. Whether you’re looking for sex journalism, erotic writing, relationship advice or kinky discussions it’ll be here at e[lust]. Please check the site in January to find out if e[lust] will be continuing under a new owner, or not. Thanks for participating!

~ This Week’s Top Three Posts ~

My Stint as an Escort

Gone Daddy Gone

Showing My Spots

~ e[lust] Editress ~

Curtain Call

~ Featured Post (Lilly’s Pick) ~

Thoughts: Safe Words

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Workout update

At the gym. Doing triceps. First set. Earphones in, music loud. I don’t talk to anyone at the gym.

In my rest period, a hugely built, bald man hovered around the machine, I saw his mouth move. Talking to me.

I removed an earbud.

“Can I work in with you here?”

I nodded. “Sure.”

I watched him move the pin to the very bottom of the weight stack.

“I just have to remember to change the weight before my turn,” I joked.

He smiled at me. “Well, you’re tiny,” he said.

I made a face, “I’m working on it…”

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Shit Ferns says #7

Random things, no context.

I’m piloting that potpourri right into a herd of puppies!! THIS IS YOUR FAULT!!

And no, really, a cock is a boy-handle, if you want to get technical

Vs dressed up as if your partner is a box of stupid and everyone wants to own the box of stupid

Because the internet is all your fault? THAT’S RIGHT!!!

It will be done in your blood, natch, which must be blessed by a true Domme (that would be me) and pissed on by virgin unicorns (that’s your responsibility).

…I’m all about the cocks, if a man refuses

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D/s flirting

Vanilla flirting is about expressing attraction and playing with it.

It’s essentially:

“You’re cute…”

“No YOU…”

And etc.

Flirting is fun, it’s bouncing potential off each other, even if there is no real intent. It’s about both parties feeling desirable and appreciated.

To me, D/s flirting has exactly the same aim, it’s just a little different in its execution. D/s flirting is about playing around with the dynamic a little bit. Similar to vanilla flirting, we toss things out to each other and see if the other person catches it and runs with it. It’s about exercising a little D/s … Continue Reading

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