Sometimes I have answers and they are answers that I don’t like very much. They are answers that piss me off. They are answers that give me this uncomfortable feeling in my stomach that everything is wrong.
I know why wankers calling themselves submissives behave like wankers to dominant women.
This guy, who after a couple of emails wanted to send me pictures of him in panties, was a wankering troll. He wanted someone, anyone, a vagina-owning someone to support his wanking, appreciate his wank material so that his wanking had more wank value to him due to his wanking being watched and wank-approved by some woman who would validate his wanking, any woman, oi you, you will do, you lady over there, help me wank!
I ask the question… why why why… why do they do it? Why do they behave this way?
The sad thing is, I know why.
Because it works.
It does. I despair of it and I hate it and I am embarrassed by it and my view of the loveliness and value of my own sexuality is horrified by it, but there it is.
I found him being ‘mentored’ (yes yes, don’t get me started on THAT) by a remote Domme who is happily ‘making’ him wear panties and display pictures of himself in panties while she hyucks it up in public comments with the ‘hehe’, ‘hahas’ and the ‘lols’.
It is the “I can haz cheezburger” of the femdom world. It is the excruciatingly unsexy “lulz” of D/s.
Yes, I know I know… each to their own, everyone’s happy, huzzah and zen-like goodness about the synchronisity of it. Fuck off! I hate it!! I hate what it says about the women, I hate what it says about the men, I hate that it encourages even *more* men to approach women with their cock in their hand, I hate that THIS THIS THIS is what makes women look at femdommery and go “Oh hell no, I’m not one of ‘them’!”
Most days, I am ok with it, I shrug and go ‘so what, somebody’s happy there, good for them…’. Then on other days, like today, I fucking hate it with a passion, I fucking hate it because it is persistent and pervasive, I fucking hate it because it breeds these idiots who think wanking = submission, I fucking hate it because it makes me associated with some parody of a woman whose desires and needs don’t matter a fuck, I fucking hate it because that’s the crap that makes it harder to find what I want. I fucking hate it!
Fuck off! Just. Fuck. Off!!