Domination is not the default

N made a comment on this post about how they know when a dominant is able to bring out the sub in them, and asked me some really great questions about how I know when a submissive is right for me:

Can you describe what “it” is for you? Is it the openness? The willingness to give you what you want?

I have had a post brewing about something very close to this for a while now, so I thought I would drag it out into the light.

I don’t feel dominant towards everyone, in fact I don’t feel dominant … Continue Reading

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Once upon a time…

Once upon a time, a Domme logged into a kink site where she has an account and there was, as always, a boy’s profile on her screen, filtered by her criteria, they always pop up. She takes an idle look. He is funny, irreverent, not kink-focussed. It is exactly the kind of thing she likes. She smiles in amusement at his description and notes the name (for later reference, you know…).

A while later, she gets an email from him in her inbox, they do that, these local boys. She feels a little tingle of interest, it is a strange … Continue Reading

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But still…

I miss you I miss you I miss you
I miss you I miss you I miss you so much…

I am not melancholy… ok, maybe just a little bit… it is a cloudy and cool Sunday morning, this song just played on the music video show that is on while I am having coffee and I just love love loved it in a sweetly sad way…… Continue Reading

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Blindfold

She ties him to the bed, face up – cuffs on wrists and ankles, spread-eagled, open for her, helpless, hard, exposed.

Then, a blindfold.

She hasn’t used one for a while, the darkness scares him, she can see it in the way he shies away from her hands, trying to sink into the bed, the way he licks his lips (she watches his tongue slip out of his mouth and lap nervously at the sides of his mouth, it makes her stomach lurch, her mouth opens slightly, almost involuntarily, she hears her own breathing, her eyes on his lips, she … Continue Reading

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Happiness creeping back

When I deal with difficult things, I compartmentalise. I have these little drawers in my head, it is something like an enormous storage vault in there, with endless sets of these drawers, like an old library room, with shelves and ladders, all dark and musty, and I shove things like the pain from my break up in one of them way down the back, close it, and skirt around it for a while.

This compartmentalising prevents me from walking around in a haze of hurtliness (which I guess is how it is in the very beginning, because in the beginning, … Continue Reading

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e[lust] #16

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Sex Pistil’s Guide to Sucking Great Cock – The penis is not something to be feared. It’s not something to hide from, and it’s definitely not something to Continue Reading

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Pimp my blog

I shouldn’t care, really, and I am sure there are a gazillion lists like this out there in the blogosphere, but I stumbled across an annual ‘Top 100 Sex Blogs’ nominations list while skiving off from work doing important research.

Like a child who sees a lollipop at the checkout and causes a scene, I *want*!!!

Now I know that you, dear readers, have not nominated me because you just didn’t know about it… right? RIGHT?

So, if you want to stay on my good side enjoy reading my blog, and want to feed my overinflated ego make me feel … Continue Reading

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