Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness.
It’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.– Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability (TED talk)
I struggle with making myself vulnerable. It’s no secret.
I’ve talked about it before in different ways: With some depth here, and more recently here.
I feel vulnerable at times, of course, but I show it very selectively, with reluctance, … Continue Reading
When I play with pain I usually start with a gentle warm up, then I ramp it up as he gets used to it. I keep an eye on his reactions, slow it down when he looks like he is reaching the edge of his tolerance, then ramp it up again after he comes back a little, each time going a little harder etc. And I generally keep going until I think he’s had enough. … Continue Reading
There is a lightness, a quickening, a wonderful buzzing that even small crush connections can bring.
I love them even if they are short-lived, a fleeting moment that flares, then disappears as quickly as it started. And most of them are just that: a flurry of interest that hits a peak and then fades quietly away.
That doesn’t diminish the pleasure I get from them. They wake up my synapses in delightful ways, stirring up … Continue Reading
I said in my last:
I *really* wish that I enjoyed casual playthings because I think that would open up some very interesting opportunities…
I’m defining a ‘casual plaything’ as a boy who is attractive, fun, appealing, and temporary. Someone with whom a long term relationship isn’t possible for whatever reason, a short term fling who I would primarily treat like a treasured toy for a time.
Sounds great, right?
But it’s not. I … Continue Reading
Have you ever taken the Meyers Brigs Personality Inventory, and if so, what was your type beyond being introverted?
I have. I did it as part of a serious exercise in something-or-other at work way back when, and have since done it again online for curiosity’s sake with the same result.
I’m an INFJ.
Introvert(78%) iNtuitive(25%) Feeling(25%) Judging(33%)
When I first did the test forever ago, I found great relief in the ‘introvert’ descriptor because … Continue Reading
This is not a ‘poor me’ post, just a ‘hey, it goes both ways you know!’ post.
I know that the impression is pretty much always that a Domme puts an ad out and then weeds out those who don’t suit her.
But don’t forget that it goes both ways.
Anyone who approaches me (or who I approach for that matter) has the equal ability and right and responsibility to reject me at any time … Continue Reading
To me, romance is doing something sweet to show someone that you are thinking of them, something to make them happy, to make them feel special. It’s the little gestures that demonstrate that feeling.
Following on from a really lively Twitter conversation a while back, Mistress Lilyana has written a really interesting post on ‘Romantic shit‘. Go and read it.
In summary, she said that her submissives have, for the most part, not … Continue Reading