I often feel like some old curmudgeon when I see how the Youth today ‘do’ D/s and BDSM.
It makes me laugh to say that because I’m not ‘old guard’ or ‘old school’ (I don’t even really know what those entail to be honest), but I DO find myself looking at discussions and going “OMG, really?!” and then shaking my head at them and then at myself because GET THE HELL OFF MY LAWN!
And … Continue Reading
Hello Dave,
Thank you for the compliments, I do appreciate it. And it’s such a shame, I really liked your approach. You seem smart, funny, and possibly awesome.
But here’s the thing: You have lied to me once already. So now I can’t believe anything you say.
I gave you a chance to tell me that the torso shot is not of you. I know it’s a shot of Channing Tatum. I had hoped … Continue Reading
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Vulnerability is the core of shame and fear and our struggle for worthiness.
It’s also the birthplace of joy, of creativity, of belonging, of love.– Brene Brown, Power of Vulnerability (TED talk)
I struggle with making myself vulnerable. It’s no secret.
I’ve talked about it before in different ways: With some depth here, and more recently here.
I feel vulnerable at times, of course, but I show it very selectively, with reluctance, … Continue Reading
When I play with pain I usually start with a gentle warm up, then I ramp it up as he gets used to it. I keep an eye on his reactions, slow it down when he looks like he is reaching the edge of his tolerance, then ramp it up again after he comes back a little, each time going a little harder etc. And I generally keep going until I think he’s had enough. … Continue Reading
A reader question:
“In a recent thread on FetLife you mentioned that you use punishment as part of your dynamic, while both recognizing and agreeing with the reasons some do not.
How does punishment work in your relationships? Removal of privileges? Some kind of physical punishment? Something else entirely?”
I did mention that, yes. For the record, my comment is here (requires Fetlife login), and the pertinent paragraph was:
… Continue ReadingThose who don’t like punishment dynamics
Random stuff, no context…
…”all the best with all the oral sex you are going to be having…” and now I feel super creepy and weird…
Yes, I AM too stupid to use sex toys, it’s TRUE!
…people talking to my ass is just uncomfortable for everyone concerned…
Well, okay, fine. I suction-cupped a dildo to the fridge. Doesn’t everyone do that?
“If only you’d done your kegel exercises, flabby-vagina bitches!”
… Continue ReadingQUOTES DO NOT DIFFERENTIATE