I never used to ‘get it’, I love my man’s orgasms, I love having him come for me, I love everything about it, so I wasn’t interested in having him NOT come. At all. Until I was.
I tried it with my last submissive as a few days of ‘no touching’ as a punishment, there was no ‘device’. I didn’t really expect much from it, I thought he would be frustrated and kind of annoyed, and then it would be done.
His response to it, though, was oh my fucking god incredibly hot and fascinating and so much fucking fun I could barely stand it.
He became this hyper sexualised, hyper sensitive version of himself, and I loved it. He was suddenly amazingly aware of his body, of his desires, his senses picking up any erotic clues in the world, clawing at them and gathering them to him as if they were suddenly vitally important. His energy changed, he got all spiky and manic, like he wanted to run into walls and dive under trains. He thrummed with it, and playing with him in that state became something different, with everything super sharp and focussed.
When the ‘punishment’ ended, we realised that we had discovered a new form of play that just worked, so I explored it some more.
At its simplest, I would describe it as extended foreplay, there was play, touching, teasing, edging, with me coming as much as I wanted, and him not coming at all. He was kept on a sexual edge for as long as I wanted, our play was intensified, he became sensitised in a way he had never been before, his entire way of walking around in the world changed, his view of himself changed, his relationship with his sexuality was emphasised, and I was the owner of all of it.
It was just incredibly hot hot hot, intensely intimate, and amazingly close-making. The longest I went with him denied orgasm was 53 days.
Tl;dr – Because it’s fucking hot. That’s why.