My sent emails LIII

Hello New-No-Profile-No-Pic-Sub-Guy,

Welcome to Fetlife.

You’re a mature man who presumably has met women before, had relationships, all that jazz.

I know this whole thing with BDSM and all is new to you, but here’s a tip: If you contact women on here, imagine you’re on a vanilla dating site, RSVP, OKcupid, and proceed accordingly.

Think about that for a second. Imagine having no profile information, nothing at all about yourself, no photo, you’re just … Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Femdom Podcast #107 [Audio]

© 'Ferns' Legs' by and of Ferns. Music by M.M. Transcript by MFMWKE.

This femdom podcast Q&A includes the following:

  • Advice for a new femdom’s play (Tip: This book “How to make your first BDSM scene amazing”) :)
  • A happy femdom story!
  • How to find a Domme as an older submissive
  • How to prepare for pegging
  • Should I tell my therapist about kink?
  • Can you fall in love with someone you’ve never met?
  • On punishments: What if the Domme fucks up?
  • My sub periodically ghosts me
  • Should
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Negotiating a stunt cock

From ‘adventures in femdom dating’ and related to using the cutie-pie’s cock for the sex toy review I mentioned earlier, here are some snippets of the conversation in which we talked about it, how I explained it to him, checked to see if he had any issues with what I had in mind, and agreed the activities that might be on the table.

I’m intending for it to be a very low key science … Continue Reading

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e[lust] #122

Welcome to Elust 122

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~ This Month’s Top Three Posts ~

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About that date

I have to say, firstly, that as a femdom dating a submissive, having all of that BDSM stuff on the table cuts out a lot of overthinky bullshit with vanilla men about when and how to bring it up. It feels like I can breathe, which is a blessed relief.

We met at one of my favourite spots for lunch, it’s busy on a weekend. Too busy for my liking, but the view over the … Continue Reading

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The heart of the question

For some reason I’ve had a flurry of emails in my inbox from local submissive men over on Fetlife recently.

I have NO idea why. I’ve done nothing unusual to suddenly be on anyone’s radar. I’ve been there forever, have no sexy pictures, don’t put up ads etc, so my inbox doesn’t attract any significant attention. I normally get either spam or chats relating to my posts. So it’s like someone suddenly put a spotlight … Continue Reading

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