General stuff and nonsense

I thought I’d post an update on what’s been going on with me. Mundane superficial updates totally count as quality blog posts, right? Of course they do!

Let’s see…

  • I’ve researched new web hosting for my website since my current host doesn’t offer any SSL in their smaller plans. Google is going to start penalising ‘not secure’ sites in searches and such so it’s a bit of a necessity. So I’ll be moving home soon. All going well, you won’t even notice that I’ve* stealthily moved my blog.

    *And by ‘I’, I mean MFMWKE (My Fabulous Man Who Knows Everything) of course, HE will be doing the move for me. I will not at all be hovering and twitching and whispering ‘Please don’t hurt my baby’. NO PRESSURE!

  • I’ve been looking at doing some more study next year, so I’ve been doing some research and submitting funding applications for that. I had hoped to do something literary to bolster my writing, but courses along those lines are costly and I can’t justify it. On the short list are some courses in web technologies or digital media.
  • For the last month I’ve been talking to a lovely submissive who I cold-emailed on a BDSM dating site (even though everyone knows Dommes NEVER initiate, amirite?! :P). His sweet sincerity makes me smile, and I see glimpses of that genuine desire to please that I love so much. We have some logistical issues but his enthusiastic optimism is a breath of fresh air. He’s flying in for a weekend soon to see if there’s something worth pursuing (if you know me at all, you know this is super rare :)).
  • I’m taking a family holiday in November and am actually looking forward to it (*gasp*! Looking forward to family time! I don’t even know who I am any more!). A place on the Great Barrier Reef with views, a pool, and a golf cart for getting around. I am stupidly excited about the golf cart, I don’t even know why! I’m picturing myself careening around, champagne in hand, yelling at people to get the hell out of my way: WHAT COULD POSSIBLY GO WRONG?!
  • I’ve been posting quite a lot on Fetlife. I will bring some of the more interesting thoughts over here for posterity and further rumination, especially since Fetlife is unsearchable so all my cleverness and outrage disappears into the depths never to be seen again. Unacceptable!
  • I’m back at the gym more regularly, though I say that in a week where it’s already Thursday and I’ve only gone once. I’m refusing to feel bad about it (fine, I feel bad about it: happy now?!).

See how I hid that actual F/m snippet in the middle there? Ha! DIDN’T EVEN NOTICE DID YOU? :P

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  1. I just finished moving my site to another server much for the same reasons. It crashed twice during the move… no fault to the new server just problems with the old one and upgrades. Lost my site for days on and off. Was I panicking??? Fuck yes!!! I was screaming “My baby, My baby!” Along with nightmares of starting from scratch. It was two weeks or so of panic and humbling. Last night did the final domain switch and fingers crossed things will be stronger and more secure than ever.

    My gawd… the things we go through to keep the populous happy! ( that was humor! )


    ~ Vista

    1. *laugh* Oh god, I shouldn’t laugh. Bad karma!!

      I know exactly what you mean. I’ve had my site go down for various reasons over the years and it does make you panic. For anyone who doesn’t have a blog, it’s akin to your phone with all of your ‘stuff’ on it dying: like that.

      Good on you for getting it done! Crossing fingers that all is well now (looks good from here, though I’m not seeing the ‘https’ if the SSL cert is why you were moving: perhaps still propogating? I clearly have no idea if that’s a thing or not…).

      And congrats on your *actual* move also :).


  2. Google has been giving higher page rank to https sites for over a year. I had my own server, but it crapped out and I decided I don’t want to manage hardware. I use For a reasonable price I have everything I had on my own server.

    1. Ahh, I didn’t realise that. There was a trigger point for me this month with them ‘warning’ readers which sites were ‘safe’ and which weren’t. does periodic purges of sex blogs (not sure if you knew that). They haven’t done one for a while as far as I’m aware, but when they do there is no warning. Just, one day the site address shows a ‘suspended’ page, and you can’t get it back. Make sure your backups are up-to-date.


  3. Yes, please do post your Fetlife musings Ferns, I’ve never joined Fetlife. I’ve always used blogs like yours as lifelines and never really felt the need for Fetlife. Might one day, though I’ve heard discouraging things about it. Anyhow, post them up please!

    1. Thanks for the encouragement :).

      Like any online community, there is good and bad on FL, but it really is the ‘go-to’ site for both discussions and finding local events.


  4. Little off-topic, but I am just curious about the cover image of “Happy Femdom Stories” book of yours. I didn’t find any sources for it from the opening pages of the book so I would just like to know more about it. Is it purposefully shot for this book or is it from some image bank? Who are the models in the picture?

    Sorry if I’m too noisy but I just love that cover picture and would like to know more about it :)


    1. Isn’t it great *smile*? I’m glad you like it.

      And no, it wasn’t created for this book (that’s waaayy out of my budget!). It’s a stock image. I went on an image-buying tear many years ago when I was looking at publishing my first book, so now I have a stash: This is one of them.


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