New year’s eve

I have hated new year’s eve for as long as I can remember.

The crowds, the desperate reaching for fun-times, the drunkenness, the random groping by strangers, the forced joie de vivre, the alcohol-fuelled ‘gis-a-kiss’ demands, the paniced avoidance of strangers’ grabby-handed slobbering on the stroke of midnight. I hated it all.

But it was a ‘thing’ for young people. A big thing. So I tried. Year after year I tried and each time I’d roll up the next morning hungover and remembering the horrible night I’d had navigating the same awful scenarios. I probably did have some good ones … Continue Reading

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Baby: Audio

This is what I sound like when I am slightly drunk, when I am writing and suddenly typing seems like too much trouble so I decide on audio instead, when I am languid and lounging on the couch, a slight slurring, almost in too much stupor to force the words past my lips…

I suspect this is similar to how I sound after sex.


I like the pet name ‘baby’.

It’s not because I infantalise my submissive.

It’s because to me it communicates sex and caring and sweetness, all of those.

I was going to write about this, but … Continue Reading

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Top 100 sex bloggers… twice!

Did I mention that I’m in the top 100 Sex Blogging Superheroes list and the Top 100 Sex Blogs list?


Consider it mentioned… *smile*.

Click the images to see the full lists of awesome sex bloggers:


Thank you so much to those of you who nominated and/or voted for me. I can’t tell you how much I appreciate it!

*toot toot* <= me tooting my own horn…… Continue Reading

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Careless words

I read a post on The Drew Duality that stirred up a flurry of tiny memories.

Drew had a bad night with his partner, not because of some huge fight, but because of a couple of exchanges where his partner hurt him unintentionally.

It’s a post about expectations and saying the wrong thing.

We all have our moments of ‘wrong responses’ to things, and have all been on the receiving end of them also. And when I say ‘wrong responses’, I really mean those ones where we have careless interactions that are almost completely thoughtless in their nature. Those exchanges … Continue Reading

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Things that make me laugh

Me on twitter:


In my inbox shortly afterwards:


*laughs* So good!! LOVE!

Thank you, SD :D.… Continue Reading

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My first crush

I was tiny, a child, maybe 3 or 4 years old. I don’t know.

His name was Johnny. He was not a child. He was a grown man, the son of one of my parents friends. I have no idea how old he was, but he wasn’t an ‘older boy’, he was a proper grown up.

He was a in the navy, I must have seen in him in his uniform at least once. I remember it clearly. He was tall and slim and ever so handsome in his whites (photos bear this out, I had good taste even then).… Continue Reading

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Reader Q&A: Non-romantic D/s, erotica, damage

It’s December. I have just returned from 5 days up in the mountains with family. I have just invited family to stay with me for 3 or 4 days. Then I will spend Christmas day with family.

I love them dearly, but this time of year sucks my very limited social energy up like a huge black hole of suckiness.

Thank you to those who popped a question on my Asks page: you are my saviours from paralysed silence!


Hullo! I just found your blog today, and holy shit am I loving this or what. (I spent half Continue Reading

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