I don’t get the ‘sex as reward’ thing.
- He has to *earn* the right to touch me
- If he is well behaved, I *may* allow him to lick me
- When he has done x, y and z for me, then I will have sex with him
- IF he has gone above and beyond, I will deign to give him a blow job
It paints Dommes as sex-negative puritanical women who reluctantly ‘endure’ sexual activity because he ‘deserves’ it or has ‘earned’ it, so we have to ‘give it up’ as something ‘for him’. What?!!
It’s sex as a commodity in some sort of bartering system. Don’t even get me started on a scenario where he has earned it and I don’t feel like it… Ugh! Where is *my* pleasure in that quid pro quo exchange? How the hell does that work?
What if I want to come, to be stroked and petted and licked and pleasured, or maybe I just want to fuck, but since he hasn’t ‘earned’ the right to touch me, I have to masturbate even though I have a perfectly good masturbatory tool sitting right there in the living room? Eh?
If I want it, I get it… he gets the benefit of what I want and it’s fun and hot and delicious. Isn’t that one of the big advantages of being the Domme?