The pure service submissive is a unicorn – rare and perhaps only found in fairy stories. A service submissive is one who gets satisfaction from serving, not performing ‘personal service’ (i.e. sexual acts), not engaging in kinky latex-maid-outfit dusting, not providing service as prepayment for play rewards. Pure service submissives get satisfaction from serving.
I found this description from a submissive who has engaged in this sort of service and I think it explains the frame of mind very well:
What appealed in it for me at the time was the mindset of doing very well at my tasks, from cooking gourmet meals to cleaning the fish tank and anything in between so to speak. The sense of accomplishment and goodness in serving gave me great joy. I knew I was doing my job well and my Dominant appreciated it greatly. There was no affection between us, just the control on his part . He spoke I acted. Period.
I have never considered the unicorn, mostly because I am largely passion-driven, but also because I don’t think I really believe in them. I expect they will shed their spiralled horn and sparkling clean-white hide within minutes to reveal a little troll-like creature that drools and grunts and paws at me with calloused dirty hands hissing “Oh Mistress, I have been bad, punish me…*slobber*”.
I have heard from many women who have attempted this sort of dynamic that submissives who offered ‘no strings attached service’ often aren’t offering anything of the sort. Rather, they use the lure of service submission as an ‘in’, and then go about trying to manipulate the situation to get play or sex or a relationship or some other form of satisfaction. A classic ‘bait and switch’ tactic. Of course this never ends well… the dominant feels deceived, the submissive feels hard done by… cue yelling and tears, finger pointing and blame.
Since I am still licking my wounds, pining and being generally pathetic, I haven’t the energy or the desire to go boy hunting however I am still curious to see what my prospects are like if and when I take out my hunting rifle and declare the season open, so I occasionally browse profiles.
I found, hidden quietly in the undergrowth, a service submissive. Sssshhhhh… don’t scare him off…
I can hear you all, eyebrows raised and sceptical… “Oh, come on, you did not!”
A brief exchange revealed a geographical mismatch, however it has piqued my interest, just a little. I am wondering now if they really might exist somewhere, these unicorns. I am wondering now if service submission might be a way to dip my toe gently into the D/s pool when I am still nursing this fragile heart. I am wondering if it might be fun to explore an area that is new to me, to satisfy some dommely urges without risk.
So, I’m curious, if anyone cares to volunteer their thoughts… are pure service submissives the unicorns of D/s? Have you had any good or bad experiences with it on either side of the kneel? What made it work or fail?