About me
Why this blog?
When I went looking around for information/stories/porn around female dominant/male submissive relationships, I could find precious little out in the webosphere that actually reflected my experience, that made me go ‘me too!’, that described how I saw it, felt it, how I knew it could be. I found it frustrating that even the ‘real life’ writings seemed to be about one dimensional Dommey McDomme finding ways to ‘punish’ her lowly minions. Grrrr…
I wanted to read about real people living in happy, healthy, troubled, flawed, loving D/s relationships where the Domme’s submissive was her primary partner, where he was cherished, adored, and opened up like a ripe peach for the taking. I wanted incredible hotness and sex and affection and beauty. I wanted hurt hearts and struggles and magic moments and some truth that I could relate to. I couldn’t find it, so I created it.
I am also an almost obsessive and prolific writer. I have kept a journal since I was 15 when it was set as an English project and I realised how much putting my thoughts on the page helped me to figure them out, to order them, to re-experience them, to keep them.
This blog addresses both of the above points, so, encouraged by my ex boy (a professional writer, who flattered and cajoled me into it), I published my first post back in 2008. I would be lying by omission if I didn’t also admit that I am a writing attention-whore. My blog gives me a space to pimp my writing out, to put it out there on the street corner, wearing a thong, suspenders and a top hat, and always, fabulous killer heels!
Getting feedback, having a dialogue with readers, the goodness that I get back from feeling this sense of community in my little corner of the blogosphere cannot be overstated. My readers often make me laugh, they move me, they teach me, it is wonderful. And sometimes, when I get a note from a young Domme saying ‘you made it easier to be me’, or from a new submissive expressing relief that he doesn’t have to be ‘that worthless worm guy’, I swear that I bounce around doing air punches and going ‘Yessssss!!!!’. It is happy-making to the nth degree.
Yeah yeah, blah blah, that doesn’t tell me anything about you!
Geez… fine… The obligatory ten things about me:
- I’m a first generation Australian born of Dutch-Indonesian migrant parents, and never spoke any English until I went to school.
- The above often makes people think I am a tiny Asian woman (Dutch, people, DUTCH!).
- I’m 5’10, slim, blonde (yeah, I know… hubba hubba!).
- I have a thing for beautiful shoes. To me, they are like wearable art. I like how they look, I like how they make me aware of my body, I like how they make my hips swing when I walk.
- I post pretty prolifically on Fetlife where I say thoughtful and interesting things, you can stalk me there.
- I am impressively lazy, truly, it is one of my most endearing traits.
- I have travelled some. Where to? I’m glad you asked! Here and here.
- Champagne is my favourite drink (Ruinart, followed by Veuve Clicquot, then Perrier Jouet, just in case you are planning to buy me some).
- I am single, and I don’t actively ‘look’ for partners, but am open to sexy, attractive, intelligent, funny, emotionally healthy boys sidling up to me and being courageous enough to smile shyly in my direction.
- I’m smart, but not as smart as I think I am.
Oh, and if you are a new and unsure submissive exploring the BDSM world for the first time, welcome!! And please, please, read this advice… it’s short, and useful, and the wimmins will love you for knowing it.
One of my favourite projects on this blog is a collection of happy femdom stories contributed by generous readers. I will always want more of these, so if you would like to tell your story, please do!
Not enough secrets about me? Well then, you will have to do a bit of work for more. I have created an About Me label to categorise all the blog posts that tell you some of my secrets… that makes up for me not actually writing more useful stuff here, right? Of course it does!
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Thank you for this wonderful blog. I really loved the approach. I’ve become a fan of ur words. Love it! dutch, asian, whatever you are doesnt matter. You are dominant and you have the right attitude. That matters :)
Thank you for the lovely comment, caneslice. I’m glad you are enjoying it!
Come, sit by the fire, grab a drink… I will tell more stories and secrets!
Ferns
I would love to post copies of your blog entries from time to time in EnchantrixEmpire.com (with full URL references to your blog of course). May I have your permission to do this, please, Ferns? I think there are a lot of kindred spirits over there who would love to read what you write.
Thank you for asking, Tom. I went and had a look at your site, and frankly, I don’t get it.
Please email me about where you would be putting my content: I couldn’t find any place where it would be appropriate since a lot of the site seems to be commercial.
Ferns (ferns AT domme-chronicles DOT com)
Ms Ferns,
i saw a comment Your posted on FetLife – “Online Dominence group, and was lead here after visiting Your profile there – i guess i was intrigued to learn more about You … *shy smile*.
i thoroughly enjoyed my visit here. it is nice to seen a Lady who knows who She is and what She wants. i am impressed by Your insight and willingness to share.
Respectfully,
willy
Hello willy,
I am not sure which comment or group you are referring to (it is not ringing a bell), but it is lovely to see you here regardless, and thank you for shyly peeking above the parapet. Welcome!
“i am impressed by Your insight and willingness to share.”
*smile* And thank you for the lovely compliment.
Ferns
You’ve just given me the “Ah! That’s ME!” moment. I’ve just started my blog, as a way to explore and discern and understand these thoughts and feelings and okay yes obsessions I’m having about dominance. I’m RUNNING back to 2008… please do be patient with me as I catch up.
~A
*smile* I’m very glad for the ‘Ah! That’s ME!” moment!!
I will be very patient, going back in time is exhausting!
I look forward to seeing how your new blog develops, and welcome!
Ferns
I, too, am an instant fan! Bravo!
Thank you, I’m glad you are enjoying it! And welcome to the blog.
Ferns
Just discovered this site today and want to say that I find it an excellent resourse as opposed to all else written, the reflections,sharing and honesty,is truly a gift that I want to thank you for.
Thank you so much for your lovely comment, PrincessDonna! I’m so happy that you are getting something out of it and that you stopped by to say so!
Ferns