Expectations

I have expectations of people I interact with, even if it’s just a friendly exchange. Those expectations vary depending on what my relationship is with them. This makes perfect sense, of course. My expectations of my boss, work colleagues, employees, of shop assistants, family members, casual acquaintances, friends etc are all slightly different.

My expectations of men, and particularly submissive men, tend towards something that could easily fall into a D/s dynamic, even if they … Continue Reading

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After it ends – what do I do about…?

Ending relationships is difficult and painful and horrible.

With D/s relationships, in addition to the ‘normal’ stuff, there are often questions that sit on top of the ‘relationship is over’ emotional turmoil that you are going through.

It goes without saying that everyone is different, there are no ‘rules’, and often, even if you *think* you would do one thing, when you are in the midst of it all, the approach that you thought you … Continue Reading

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Shopping list porn

Oddly, one of my previous posts describing actual kinky things I bought and did not buy led to some inquiries as to what actually WAS on the grocery list I mentioned (you folks are the perviest people EVER!!)…

So, here it is… shopping list porn:

  • smelly cupboard stuff
    [yes, I copied this faithfully from my list word for word… ‘stuff’ is totally valid shopping list terminology!]
  • 30 second outdoor cleaner
    [has been on the list
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“can a submissive man have a normal relationship?”

Yes, yes he can!!!

Hello you, yes you, the one who googled that question and found this blog:

can a submissive man have a normal relationship?

It led you to this post: Advice for the newly minted submissive man

But oh my gosh… I love that you asked that question of google! I do, I love that, thank you!!

Yes, yes you can!!

Stick around, read a little, send me an email, something, but please

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My sent emails XI

Hello fuckmeintheassrightnowmistress,

Your nick demands a sexual act, your profile says nothing about you except that you do lots of anal and CBT, your profile photo is of some woman ‘doing’ a man, your friends list is full of only hot women, you are actively seeking any kind of woman at all (orientation irrelevant), your list of interests is play only…

Seriously, your claim that “[I am] here to do what you want for your … Continue Reading

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Bought and did not buy

I bought this on the weekend. It is beautiful, with 25 inch shoestring leather tails and a lovely hefty weight… *swoon*:

I did not buy this Vollers corset. I tried on a stunning red one and loved the cinched in waist and fabulous curvy look, but I really wanted black and he did not have any in my size… *cries and cries*:

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e[lust] #23

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