A date, a sexy sexy* date

Y’all know how rare it is for me to have a date, so, yeah, it’s a pretty big deal. I contacted him on a BDSM dating site about 6 weeks ago. His profile was scant, no photo, but for some reason I still liked it and sent him a cute note. He replied with enthusiastic sweetness. There are a couple of things about him that fall outside what I would normally go for, […]

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General stuff and nonsense

I thought I’d post an update on what’s been going on with me. Mundane superficial updates totally count as quality blog posts, right? Of course they do! Let’s see…  I’ve researched new web hosting for my website since my current host doesn’t offer any SSL in their smaller plans. Google is going to start penalising ‘not secure’ sites in searches and such so it’s a bit of a necessity. […]

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So… ghosting is an acceptable thing now

ghosting ghost·ing \ ˈgō-stiŋ \ noun … 2. the practice of ending a personal relationship with someone by suddenly and without explanation withdrawing from all communication. It’s been a thing for a long time, the origins of the term date back to 2006, and it was added to the Merriam-Webster dictionary in February this year.  What has changed, and what I’m seeing more of lately, is people strenuously defending ghosting as a perfectly valid and acceptable relationship-ending option, […]

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Harsh? Who me?

I don’t think of myself as harsh or rude or any of those things. Honest, yes (but not the ‘I’m just being honest’ type of brutality that people use to justify being an arsehole). Forthright, you bet. Sometimes impatient, sure. Easily irritated (with strangers at least), yep. But harsh? I tend(ed) to think not. I had an exchange on a BDSM dating site the other day that both made me laugh and made me wonder if I AM harsh. […]

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Online dating update

I wish I could regale you with fun-hot adventure stories about all the dating successes I’ve been having while not writing about it. Or gush about the fabulous submissive man who has me all a-flutter. But the round-up is kind of same-sameish. I’m sharing it less because it’s interesting, and more because this is what reality looks like. I sent cold-call emails on a BDSM site to two submissive men who looked interesting. […]

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When men say ‘no’ to me

I contacted a couple of local submissive men on a BDSM dating site. They said “No thanks” to me. Politely and pleasantly. I said, “Okay, best of luck finding what you’re looking for.” The End. ___ Things I didn’t say: “But why?” “No, really, explain to me why.” “You never even gave me a chance.” “Pleeeeaasssseeee, please pleaseplease.” “You’re really missing out, you know…” “Fucking arsehole, no wonder you’re single.” “No woman would want you anyway you ugly fat creep.” OR ANYTHING EVEN REMOTELY LIKE THAT. ___ Taking rejection well isn’t hard. […]

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Dating Schmating

I haven’t written about this: I might still, at some stage. But sometimes the whys and wherefores of difficult things are better left to sit quietly unspoken until there is no power left in them. Suffice it to say that I took a hit and feel like I am now gathering up my various resources, hoarding them until they are back at full strength. I took a tentative step out and reactivated my vanilla dating profile, […]

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