Happy Femdom Story: Henry & Cathy

Henry’s happy femdom story is a sweet tribute to his wife, Cathy. He describes one of those F/m relationships where the relationship evolves from fun with kink in the bedroom to an exploration of FLR (Female Led Relationship) elements. To their delight they have found a balance that works wonderfully for both of them.

Enjoy :).

Author: Henry

I think there might be a point to start, not with the beginning for me and my wife, but with the end. True to the general theme of this compilation, our story is a happy femdom relationship. Could I have anticipated my relationship of today in my youth, I would have been positively surprised, to say the least. In all honesty ‘surprised’ is a far too weak word; stunned, amazed, speechless or astounded would be more to the point.

So what is so fantastic about our current relationship? Of course, your mileage may vary, but essentially Cathy – my wife – controls me to just the right degree, and importantly she loves to be in charge. I could end the description right here, the above is really the key aspect, but let me be a bit more specific. Not surprisingly, perhaps, the sexual dynamic is one of the cornerstones of our relationship, so what kind of things are we into? Let me start with a common fetish that is part of who I am, and which Cathy appreciates, but, for right or wrong, I think of as my least favorite kink. Because honestly, I’m not a fan of pain, but somehow I still welcome a spanking every now and then.

In our marriage, spanking happens for no particular reason, except that my wife feels like it, or it can be a response to some (minor) act of disobedience. Normally I do my best to please Cathy in all the ways I can, but my wife is good at seeing my failures, even the small ones. When I get spanked without a specific reason, usually she applies the paddle on my butt-cheeks. The blows are never particularly harmful; they end when my ass gets a deep red glow, but well before any blisters or bluish colors develop. This is how we both want it; the spanking symbolizes that she is my owner who can do as she pleases, and the modest physical pain associated with it is no big deal.

When I have done something to displease my wife things are different, and the paddle might be used on another area of the body, often the front of my thighs. Although I have only used my safeword a handful of times during our long marriage, I must admit that these beatings are really painful. And as I’ve already stressed, I’m not a masochist who enjoys pain a great deal. On the other hand, I think the above description is a bit simplistic since it misses a key element.

When the punishment is over, and I realize I must do my absolute best not to displease my wife again (since I don’t want another round any time soon), I get immensely excited. That my wife enforces her will, and I feel like I have no real choice but to obey, is the best turn-on ever. In a paradoxical way, the fact that I don’t appreciate pain, makes it an extremely useful ingredient in our overall dynamics.

Cathy is far from a classical sadist herself, but she understands very well how her treatment affects me. That she can overcome her natural instincts and hand out really severe beatings at times, is something I’m immensely grateful for. Fortunately, the feelings are mutual, since my wife fully values the obedient husband she has helped to perfect and knows how to take advantage of my willingness to please her.

While I have been submissive to my wife in the bedroom all the time, it is not until the last couple of years we have taken things a step further. It was my suggestion to introduce FLR (Female Led Relationship) ideas into our marriage, but Cathy totally appreciates the concept and our new roles. What prevented me from proposing the change much earlier, was our kids. As long as they stayed at home, I think neither Cathy nor me would have considered anything but an equal relationship outside the bedroom. So while I really love our children, meet our kids regularly and get on very well, I must admit our lives changed for the better two years ago when our youngest moved out.

Luckily Cathy adapted to a lifestyle where she always was in charge in an instant. The lovely thing is that she leads in a balanced way that creates little tension. At times she let me work hard for her benefit, but she understands my needs and doesn’t abuse her powers. Nowadays I do more than my half of the boring chores, but my wife still contributes, just a fair bit less than she used to.

As far as I can see, Cathy has chosen a level of FLR that suits us perfectly. Many of her orders are of a soft and tender nature; for example, she tells me to join her for her favorite Netflix-series, and as a result, I watch a little less sports. She doesn’t take this as far as she could by any means. Netflix can be seen at any time, and I still have some time alone for my favorite hobbies.

A result from her leadership that I really appreciate is that I’m in better physical shape than I’ve been for years. We don’t have a full gym at home, but we do have a rowing machine, some weights, and a stationary bike. Cathy makes sure the equipment doesn’t collect dust, as it did for some time, and it’s just one of many small things that have improved for the better.

The biggest thing for me is to see how much my wife enjoys being in charge, and it makes me love her even more. Most of the interactions in our everyday roles are not sexually charged, at least not in a strong way, but my wife makes sure that this aspect is not forgotten. For example, whenever she feels like it, she might order me to do a chore for her undressed, naked apart from my chastity cage. And every now and then when she compliments me for carrying out her orders quickly and accurately, she makes a sly smile and remarks that my swiftness was fortunate, as it just saved me from a severe spanking.

The times I fail her are few and far between, but whenever it happens I get reminded that the comment was not a joke after all, and that’s just the way I want it. The bottom line is that I have been lucky enough to be with a woman that understands me, and appreciate the gifts I’m willing to give.

When I met Cathy way back when, we clicked instantly, even though it took a fair bit of time for our relationship to evolve into the wonderful state it is today.

When I recall my feelings from back in the day, I realize I had some rather naive notions. Still, I can’t be mad at myself for anything I did. After all, had I chosen another path I likely would not have met Cathy, my beloved wife, owner, and mother of my children.

Truly we are an example of a happy femdom relationship.

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This post is part of an ongoing project to share positive happy femdom relationship stories. If you have a story that you are willing to share, I’d love to host it. Please check out my call out post for details and send it on to me.

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8 Comments

  1. My husband (“Henry”) asked me to make a comment of his text. Normally it is me telling him what to do, but I will let this be an exeption. I think it is often interesting to hear other side of things. Boringly enough I mostly have to agree with my husbands presentation. We are a happy femdom couple, and he described it as it is. The possible exception, maybe, is that he is not totally sincere when he say I control him to just the right degree. I suspect that secretely he want me to take our FLR arrangement to the next level. I’m no mind reader, but for all I can see, he is at best moderately appreciative when I give him the freedom do to as he want. When I give him strict rules to impose my will, on the other hand, he always seem hugely grateful. From my own points of view, I am very tempted to take the opportunity to increase the intensity in our FLR relation. So why don’t I, when I’m sure my husband would not protest? The reason is that I view our FLR arrangement as somewhat of a drug. At a moderate level, the right type of drug can makes you happy and bring little or no trouble. Too high comsumption, on the other hand, is bound to bring you misery. For my own part, I suspect I have a gene that easily could make me overdose FLR. By deliberately keeping my control of Henry to a moderate level, giving him a bit more freedom than he really wants and need, I make sure I don’t do anything extreme that will jeoparice our relation in the long run. This way, I think we will continue being an Happy Femdom couple.

    1. Thank you so much for commenting, Cathy.

      It’s always lovely to hear from both parties, and thank you to you both for sharing your story.

      May you your love and happiness continue for a long long time :).

      Ferns

  2. What a charming, feel-good story. It’s just what the doctor ordered amid so much less-than-charming political nonsense that has somehow affected my enjoyment of sexy things. It sounds like you two have a lot of fun. Thank you for sharing! 💙

  3. My original plan was not to comment my own text, but as it turned out I could not restrain myself.

    I asked my wife for some input when writing the story, but she insisted I should tell it solely from my own point of view. The only thing she contributed was the aliases to be used, and for some reason, she liked “Henry” and “Cathy”. I have previously used “Gerb“ as a nickname, here and elsewhere, but not surprisingly she dissed that name (“you don’t really want to be called something that sounds like the name for a toad, do you?”) Funnily enough, I discovered just a few days ago that “Gerb” could be a name used for someone with a very small dick according to the urban dictionary. Neither I nor my wife knew that. I guess people here must have believed I’m into small size penis humiliation. In any case, I will make any future comments on this blog as “Henry”.

    A few of my wife’s formulations above may hint at some mild form of marital tension. Am I being honest when I say she has found just the right level of control? Or is she right when she says I would love for her to increase the intensity of our FLR? It probably seems like a contradiction, but I think the answer to both questions is yes. From my point of view, it is good (perfect even) as it is, but it would still be perfect if she increased her power over me a bit. Now it sounds as if my submissive personality is doing the talking, saying that whatever my wife is doing is the right thing. That’s not the message, though. The point is that the exact level of dominance my wife has over me is not super important. The key is that we can find a balance and keep it, and we do not need an ever increasing intensity to get a kick out of it. For personality types like me and my wife, I think there is always a bit of danger involved taking things too far, but fortunately, we are both well aware of it. Importantly, having children together is a great help in keeping things grounded in reality, even if they have moved out since a couple of years.

    1. *smile* Thank you for your thoughts, Henry.

      When you are both happy and the relationship is strong like yours is, I think there is plenty of space to move and change and learn and grow and compromise and all of those good things :).

      Ferns

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