Maybe kissing

I trawled OKCupid for men I felt moved to contact last week. I do that from time to time and I send a message if they look interesting. There wasn’t a single profile that motivated me to send a note. Not one. Not even a ‘you aren’t a match for me but great profile/funny comment/cute photos’ kind of note. […]

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Holy fuck beautiful eyes: Well hello there

Holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes has been out of the country since our kissing date (nothing to do with me, I promise!).  We have kept in sporadic touch: a few texts, the occasional flurry of emails, some light flirting. Some of our exchanges feel like a kind of esoteric dance. He throws in little snippets that capture my attention, make me think, […]

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Zing zing, or not

I’ve mentioned before that I sent holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes a random message out of the blue, not because he was a potential partner, just because he was beautiful and his OKCupid profile was smart and interesting. My profile there is all about the D/s: I don’t ‘hide’ it in secret code somehow, so he saw all that up-front. […]

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Kissing date mark II

I didn’t want to talk about this until it was a SURE THING. Because, well, you know.  But since I’m posting this as I walk out the door to meet him, unless he’s a no show (he won’t be), fuck yeah, kissing date! Holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes kept in casual touch after cancelling our kissing date (as he said pointedly to me, […]

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Kissing date? What kissing date?

Ugh.  So holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes pulled out of the kissing date. It was supposed to be tomorrow night. Yesterday we were finalising plans. Today he told me that a woman he had been on a few dates with had expressed serious interest in him this morning, and he was equally interested in her. Given that had arisen, he didn’t think it would be right to go ahead with the kissing date. Understandably, […]

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Kissing date

Kissing date: A date designed with the sole objective of kissing.  This is a completely different thing from a traditional date where the objective is ‘getting to know you’ or ‘doing something together’ or ‘sharing a meal’ or a combination of any of those things, where there *might* be some kissing at some stage if all goes well. A kissing date is JUST FOR KISSING. […]

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Holy fuck beautiful eyes

I’ve taken to calling him ‘holy-fuck-beautiful-eyes’ (in honour of the fabulously articulate email I sent him on a whim), which is the worst nickname EVER but it makes me smile every time I use it. He’s not a match for me (he agrees with this), and I am unlikely to meet him (I’ve told him this), and yet, […]

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