He believed…

When we were together long ago, in the distant past, he believed that I had betrayed him. Not just ‘betrayed’, but ‘BETRAYED’ in all caps with a bright neon red, sharp and harsh, and so ugly it can barely be looked at head-on. That betrayal impacted him deeply, coloured all of his relationships since me with a murky grey cloak of fear and self protection. […]

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Happy femdom story – greg

A few months ago I got a really lovely email from a reader and he mentioned that he had been inspired by the happy femdom stories that people have shared here.  He said that he wasn’t sure if his story would fit because he and his wife started their life together as a vanilla couple and their D/s relationship evolved from there. […]

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Hello Ma’am

SGC of the wonderful Submissive Guy Comics tumblr recently posted this really sad comic. When I saw it, it brought back a rush of memories. My memories are usually packed away and mostly inaccessible without concerted effort, but they are sitting close to the surface for me at the moment because of my anniversary post. When I was thinking about what to write, […]

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Because I’m happy

It was a weekend, I took him out for lunch to a pub that sits on a point overlooking the bay. A beautiful spot on a hill, the islands in the distance. It was warm, sunny.  He got us drinks, ordered the food, and came back to me.  We were sitting side by side in chairs on the lawn looking out over the water, […]

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Conflict

You look at me, both guilty and defiant. I hold your gaze. I wait. You are hurt and angry. You lift your chin. I know that look. You are considering your options. They are running through your mind like quicksilver, fast and light and slippery.  I don’t look away. I just wait while you run through the possible reactions in your head. Your breathing is shallow while you fight for composure. […]

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Sleeping together

I don’t sleep well with another in my bed. I don’t sleep well at all for the most part. This tenuous relationship with sleep makes it precious, sacrosanct. There are few things more irritating than having my sleep interfered with. I need to feel very comfortable with someone to want them in my bed, and if I don’t have that level of comfort, […]

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He’s just not that into you

You know what I liked about that movie? It gave us a short, easy phrase to explain this oh-so-simple concept. And it really *is* simple. Let me preface this with ‘in my experience’… Men who are interested in you will move heaven and earth to be with you. They will.  They will be thinking about you as they go about their day, […]

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Supporting your dominant’s dominance

Sometimes submissives ask how they can help their dominant (especially their *new* dominant) become more comfortable in her dominance. Come here, and I will let you in on a secret… Ssshhhh… Ready?  Here it is: Submit! Seriously. Do that. I know it sounds as if I am being cute or something, but I’m not. Do you want to know what I probably needed most from my submissive when I was finding my feet?  A safe space in which to assert myself. To be certain that when I ask for something, […]

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Oh, there I am

Earlier this year, I talked about how I worry sometimes that I’ve lost the hunger that drives my dominance. It doesn’t exist in a vacuum, it only comes alive when I have someone I want to aim it at.  When I haven’t felt it for a while, it becomes like some distant thing. Vaguely remembered, but shadowy, […]

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