My First: his words

My first submissive has commented on some of the posts I’ve written about him using the nickname “Her First” (this cute choice of nickname makes me smile & I’ll be calling him ‘First‘ from now on).  I’m putting this comment from him here in its entirety because it sums up his perspective of this situation so well. […]

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Traditional power signifiers and D/s

I like to think I’m above it, of course: giving value to traditional power signifiers conveyed by social norms. But I’m not.  Education, sophistication, success, intelligence, achievement, wealth are all ways that many of us ‘traditionally’ place people on the power spectrum. I know some of you are now going ‘not all of us!’ and I know that. […]

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Communicating the hard stuff

NaBloWriMo[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project, though he’s hiding some of them on Twitter so if you aren’t following him, you should… ]   So the question for you all is – how do you communicate best? Within the dynamic or by stepping outside of it? I see some form of this question come up from time to time and I suspect I normally give some answer without giving it a lot of real thought. […]

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D/s break ups

NaBloWriMo[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project, though he’s hiding some of them on Twitter so if you aren’t following him, you should… ]   “How should Masters/Dominants try and help their submissive/slave move forward? What, according to the Dominant are they owed? What do THEY owe their submissive’s in turn? What kind of post-relationship aftercare is provided due to the intensity of D/s relationships in comparison to vanilla ones?” My D/s relationships are monogamous, […]

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Oh baby

NaBloWriMo[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project, though he’s hiding some of them on Twitter so if you aren’t following him, you should… ]   “Oh baby,” she whispered. He opened his eyes slowly, lazy eyelashes fluttering as if they were weighted, as if it took all of his strength to manoeuvre them open. He managed a moment’s connection, […]

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More on neediness

NaBloWriMo[SubmissiveGuyComics is also doing a post for our NaBloWriMo project]   greg made this comment on my last: Thought provoking post. I never thought about it this way. It makes sense, but it sounds difficult to sort out… I never really thought about it this way before either and I think it IS difficult to sort out. The fact that we all subconsciously navigate this all the time (sometimes well, […]

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