Do what you say you will do

I’ve said this before in different ways, but I’m going to say it again. What I expect from potential submissives, or even submissive men I am just flirting with, is that they do what they say they will do. Every time. Reliably. Without fail. Hell, I apply that rule to everyone, but with *other* people, I don’t really care either way. […]

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Fears of submissive men

Susannah Clary wrote an interesting post about her recent dating experiences where she mused that it’s taking many men into their 40s and 50s to discover and accept who they really are. That led to her asking these questions: To my readers who identify as submissive or switch men, how did/do you deal with fear and self-acceptance? How can I help men I encounter to begin that journey of self-acceptance and overcome their fears? I commented over there, […]

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On being emotionally fearless

I said in my last post: When I talk about wanting a man who is emotionally fearless, it’s because I need him to hammer down those walls and throw himself into the fray over and over and take whatever hits are coming. And I got a really smart question from the original asker: “But don’t you think its possible that being emotionally fearless maybe difficult for someone not because they are afraid of stepping into the fray but because they don’t want to put someone they care about/serve in a situation where they are being ‘hammered’.”  Yes, […]

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Happy femdom story – Master Joy’s boy

I cannot tell you how delighted I was when I read this story. It was Sunday morning, and I had my coffee in hand when I opened my emails. Moments later I was almost in tears with an idiot-smile on my face as I read this absolutely wonderful happy-making tale *delighted sigh*. Author: Master Joy’s boy I saw your call for sharing happy and healthy stories. […]

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Something between us

There is something between us. He felt it early on, some pull towards me, ghosts of our D/s relationship tugging at something in him. You still have a hold over me. How? Why? I hate it. Is there something about submitting to a person that can never be undone? He has never submitted to anyone else, so it makes sense that as he has unravelled past hurts and the idea of submission comes tentatively floating back, […]

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On not feeling loved

I’ve written about the things I screwed up in my relationship with my First and touched on how I didn’t feel loved.  One of the things that I learnt from that relationship is that submissive behaviours can obscure traits that I would have seen a mile off in a vanilla man, but didn’t yet have the experience to see in a submissive. […]

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Short circuiting

My First: Are you sure the wine and yourself haven’t made each other’s acquaintance tonight? Me: Shush! First: Yes Ma’am Me: …  …  …  jfdjlgjlkbalkjfdjkl;fj  *laugh* First: That’s the first thing you’ve instructed me to do since we moved apart Me: I was thinking VERY IMPORTANT THINGS! Stop short circuiting me! First: Sorry Ma’am Me: Bzzzttttt … Seriously, I can’t put a coherent thought together now. […]

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