Washing up

He was standing at the sink, washing up. I swear I didn’t touch a dish the entire time he was here. Lovely. I watched him for a moment or two. He was wearing longish shorts and a t-shirt, his body moving slightly as he scrubbed. I stepped in behind him, pressing gently against his back. My face resting against his shoulder blade. […]

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Casual maybe

I’m shit at casual anything. I’m normally either all-in and want to give and get everything, or I’m out. Because ‘meh’. But sometimes, rarely, I am open to other options. Considering service submission was one example, and being open to something non-LTR-ish with the cougarling is another. I offered to see the cougarling again in my last email to him even though I didn’t think that developing a long term relationship over distance was going to work for us: I enjoyed so much about our time together: you’re lovely, […]

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Heavy sighs & fine-ness

I have written more, lots, reams, but I just don’t feel like posting it because REASONS. So, this: Hello cougarling, Thank you so much for all the travel you did to come and spend time with me, I really appreciate it.  I enjoyed so much about our time together: you’re lovely, and you’re so beautiful, and I feel like there is more to explore. […]

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Roping a cougarling

I knew he was into rope. I’d warned him that I have no skills with it, but that I was absolutely happy to learn with him if this went somewhere. In that way I’m like some ‘fantasy Domme’: kinks in and of themselves don’t interest me much, but HIS kinks do. Because that’s how I get reactions and that’s where I enjoy playing. We played some with rope this time. […]

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Communication and distance

I’m good at remote communication. Probably better than in-person. I can write thoughtful, funny, intimate emails. I adore someone who does the same, who fires me up, who is able to bring something to our exchanges that makes me excited and fascinated, that feeds me. That thing where I can’t hit reply fast enough: I need that. I’m also good at doing long distance. […]

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5 days with the cougarling

The rising sun was still low over the horizon, a warm morning, the promise of a bright day. An early swim and play in the surf. I leapt at him full force, trying to take him down in the churning water. He held me lightly, amused. Could easily lift me overhead. Playful silliness. I left the water first, […]

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Travelling

I know a lot of you are waiting for an update on the cougarling’s visit, and it’s coming. I blame him for the lack of posting: He ended up staying until pretty much 3 hours before I had to pack up and head off on the first leg of a trip overseas, and I will have NO time to myself for another couple of weeks. So you will just have to wait. I know: waiting is the WORST! In the meantime, […]

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Setting expectations

All going to plan, the cougarling will arrive here on Saturday afternoon after a million hours of driving. He will stay for a few days (not with me: that’s waaay ‘too much too soon’). How long exactly depends on how it goes.  I sent him an outline of my expectations: ___ What I expect from the visit is that we will date like normal people dating, […]

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The cougarling

I rarely talk about potentials here for a bunch of complicated reasons.  Firstly because they usually know about my blog and talking about my feelings while exploring something new is confusing and destructive. If I write about it honestly, it’s more information than I am ready to share with them. Since these things are always tenuous and volatile, […]

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