Happy femdom stories – amusoman

I’m delighted to have another happy femdom story to share! Yay!!

Amusoman emailed me out of the blue a looong time ago for a chat, and I recall getting quite stern with him about his lazy language and over-use of emoticons. I do believe he thought I was quite the bossy bitch (I know, hard to believe isn’t it?) and I’m happy to note that neither of those traits are in evidence in the lovely story he has shared here. He is one of the lucky ones who has managed to introduce his wife of many years to D/s. Enjoy!

Author: amusoman

My Happy Journey into a Female Led Relationship

i had sexual intercourse with my Wife five times last weekend. While that is in no way a record; it is quite astonishing considering we are both in our fifties and have been married for over 30 years and have 3 teenage kids! Perhaps now i have your attention?

Four years ago our story was quite different. Our marriage was not in a terminal condition but was stale. i actually craved the time apart from my Wife more than the time spent being with her. My Wife nagged and complained about so many things that i felt it was just best to avoid her. Then she became seriously ill and the “til DEATH do us part” marriage vow, became a frightening reality. To cut a long story short i added two elements to our relationship. Number one was the concept “That She was always right”! (even, when her illness drove her to great depths of irrationality).

i quickly discovered that agreeing with her was always was so much better than arguing with her. And usually, by herself, her views would become more rational again anyway…without me having to “correct” her. Secondly, as i had to feed her, cook, clean and generally look after her i decided to make it a romantic game. i was her butler, servant, knight, lover, defender, protector, doctor, romancer, slave! And it worked! This was a far more satisfactory construct than the reality of very sick Wife and put upon husband.

Surprisingly, even though she was desperately ill, our marriage was thriving! Not surprisingly, once she got better, my Wife did not want to go back to the way things were. She wanted to stay as Queen, Goddess, Boss of our relationship and she wanted me to stay the devoted “slave boy” that she now called me!! Not surprisingly, i also wanted to keep both our marriage and my deep devotion to my Wife going too. It was time to do some research into this crazy Female Led Relationship dynamic we had created.

The internet is a wonderful thing! Your journey into it often starts quite vanilla and straight forward but quickly your search can become wilder than you ever imagined by taking the side paths that spring up. i discovered many others had explored Female Led Relationships and had written very convincingly of why they should become the norm for all relationships between men and Women. Very quickly, i discovered the power of chastity and orgasm control as a means of deepening loving submission.

You have probably realised that with my Wife being sick that our sex life suffered. It certainly did at first and pretty quickly i discovered i was getting very horny even though things were so serious in terms of my Wife’s health. What was a wonderful discovery was that i was also crazily deriving great sexual pleasure from serving my Goddess while expecting nothing in return in terms of sexual favours. So our new relationship dynamic had orgasm control and chastity built into it! So when i came across the terms in my own research, I already knew what they were talking about! But possibly even more pleasantly shocking was that my Wife even though ill was so enjoying my chivalrous service that her own sexual needs came back and we began to make love again….and again….and again!

So after she got well, i was keen to keep chastity and orgasm control as part of our continuing Female Led Relationship. However, i was very aware of the fact that my Wife was even straighter than i was in terms of sex. i did have to work slowly and cautiously (or at least I thought i had too..Maybe I didn’t have too? I will never know!!). We talked about how much better our marriage was now and we both agreed we did not want to go back to how we were. i likened it (like many texts do) to our courting time. A time in which i was so much more attentive of her needs, was so sexually hungry for her and so in love too that i would literally do anything for her for just a kiss! She too remembered those times with great fondness. So having reminded her of the benefits of having that courtship style hunger driven romance back in our marriage it was easy to explain to her that our earlier happiness was due to the fact that she was largely in charge of my sex life and that she unwittingly doled out sex and affection as a reward then and was now doing it again. She saw the sense in this and she loved the fact that i wanted to formally hand over control of my orgasms to her and that “Sex was for Goddess’pleasure” and that i “would find it impossible to cum without her permission to do so”.

My Wife absolutely loved it and the effects it had on me. She loved making me moan and cry and beg for sex and relief and that I would promise to do anything for it. She quickly learned to love exploiting that power and yes i found myself obediently (and happily) taking over the washing, cooking and most of the cleaning.

Of course i quickly discovered chastity devices on the net and bought one. i had it for many weeks before i showed my Wife. She again loved it and actually became the new driver of our journey into chastity play (well okay sometimes i had to hint about directions and times to use it). She loved locking me up if i was out without her. She loved locking me up when she was out or when she wanted special things done or wanted extra attentions. i was going up to 3 months without release other than leaking and “spoiled orgasms” (by choice) which she found annoying but acceptable. Masturbation was out of the question because she just seemed to know if i did and there was hell to pay.

So at this point, we have both acknowledged that i am her “slave boy” and that she is my “Goddess.” That i “must obey, serve and cherish her” that her “decisions are final” and that i will wear a cock cage or panties whenever she sees fit. I sleep in a “slave bed” when she instructs me too and she canes me when i have displeased her. (Which incidentally, is usually followed by massive screaming orgasms for her?) My “straight” Wife has gone along with our deepening Female Led Relationship and has sometimes been the driver of that deepening. Our marriage is stronger than ever and i deeply love my Wife and she loves me too!

Oh and did i mention the huge amount of sex we have?

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This post is part of a project to share happy, positive femdom relationship stories.  If you have a story and are willing to share it, please email it to me (ferns AT domme-chronicles DOT com).

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10 Comments

  1. “Oh and did i mention the huge amount of sex we have?”

    Oh what a wonderful story, Mme Ferns! Good luck to the lad, overuse of emoticons or no!

    I saw a website by someone called ‘Akasha’, recently, that had things like this on it. Only they weren’t as good.

    1. Oh do be quiet, Ouanquer. Although Akasha may be a little long in the tooth, wear far too much make-up and have the personality of a crocodile, I’m sure that Miss Ferns is much too ladylike to countenance your vulgar, garlic-ridden criticisms of her in her Blog.

    2. Yes, it *is* a wonderful story!

      And your cousin is quite right, if you want to critique someone else’s writing go to the source!! Off you go…

      Ferns

  2. “i quickly discovered that agreeing with her was always was so much better than arguing with her. And usually, by herself, her views would become more rational again anyway”

    Upon second reading, that’s really struck me.

    God, I’d love to try this with a vanilla woman. I’d be so fascinated to see what would happen.

    Someone should make a TV series on the subject – and not one set on a holiday island, either. Just take ten ordinary vanilla couples, who want to ‘experiment’. Could be such fun . . . .

    1. Um, you do realise that her irrationality was due to her illness. Are you wishing terrible illnesses on innocent vanilla women?!

      Shame on you!

      Ferns

  3. “Um, you do realise that her irrationality was due to her illness”

    Whoops, no. I was so taken with the idea of a woman being empowered by the opportunity to become ‘stronger of mind’, I suppose.

  4. Damn.

    I am *deeply* envious of amusoman. I want to steal his wife.

    It can be done, I think, this ‘bringing out of the inner Domme’ in one’s partner (if it’s there, of course). But the would-be submale concerned has to be very, very open-minded about it. Anything that feels like ‘moulding her’ isn’t going to work, and it’s difficult to stop that. I think, mainly, one has to hoover out all preconceptions about what one thinks a femdom should be like in order to be dominant.

    I say this because I *nearly* did it, once . . . .

    1. I think it can be done also (obviously! See amusoman’s story), but I do think it’s difficult.

      The main reason being that there is a tipping point that she has to get over where her mindset changes from ‘I’m trying to please you, sweetie’ to ‘Do what I want because I said so’. As you say, it has to be in her somewhere for it to work.

      I also think many submissive men who try it focus on their sexual fantasies, whereas amusoman focussed on service. I think the former can be very intimidating for vanilla women because asking them to not only try something new, but to *lead* it is a big call.

      Ferns

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