Submissive leanings

He is a work colleague: smart, driven, funny, engaging, good at his job. I like him and enjoy working with him. We talked all the time on the phone, but had never met because, well, he’s in North America and I am not.

We were on a call, I was carefully trying to explain something to him, he was distracted, obviously doing something else over there across the ocean. I got exasperated and snapped at him.

“Stop that and pay attention! You *know* boys can’t multi-task!”

He was shocked, he sincerely and sheepishly apologised, agreed with me that no, boys can’t multi-task, and we continued with what we were doing.

We met sometime after that at a conference, it was lovely to put a face to the name, we got along well. As part of these things, of course, there are drinks after the day’s agenda is over. I meet a lot of men (always men!) at these conferences that I work with from all over the world, but have never seen face to face.

I approached a group of them at the bar one evening, and found him gleefully recounting the story of me telling him off to all of them, just like a submissive would show off to his kinky friends about the beating he got! I joined them, he beamed at me, all proud of himself, it amused me greatly, I probably smirked at him. I asked him to get me a drink, and off he trotted.

The next day over lunch, he sat beside me. I pointed out that the table had no salt. He jumped up to get some. During the course of the meal, I had him fetch a napkin from the waiter, get extra cutlery when I dropped a fork, order me another drink, and then go and get me dessert. He was eager and compliant. During the rest of the day, he opened doors, he made sure I always had a seat, he checked if I needed anything, he smiled a lot. It was truly lovely.

*happy sigh*

Sometimes it takes very little for me to get a little domly fix.


Edited to add: a little more on him here

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18 comments

  1. I have noticed that even when not in a specifically D/s situation, there are people who are, by nature, just more comfortable in a submissive role, I’m not sure if it is genetic or merely a by-product of their environment. It just is.

  2. Anonymous XXXXXXX: “Heh. And sometimes it takes very little to get the same kind of subby fix.”

    Nice the way that works out sometimes isn't it?!

    Ferns

  3. Charlene: “Men are so easy. :o)”

    *laugh* And apparently, so are dominant women (or this one on occasion anyway!).

    Ferns

  4. slapshot: “I have noticed that even when not in a specifically D/s situation, there are people who are, by nature, just more comfortable in a submissive role…”

    That's true, and sometimes it is a recognition of each other. When I saw his reaction and recognised his happiness in it, I pushed him a little, to see how he would respond. When he responded well, I pushed a little harder.

    For me, this is familiar territory. This is how my D/s relationships develop, like an organic symbiosis. I adore it.

    Ferns

  5. Étienne: “That sort of interaction can really spice up an ordinary situation, can't it?”

    smile Absolutely! It was much fun!

    Ferns

  6. Tom: “For a moment there I thought this was me, 'cos of the post tag.”

    It wasn't you?! But but… I have written 22 posts about you!!! Who the hell is it then?!!

    Ferns

  7. AngelSam: “I can't wait for more stories about this lovely gentleman!”

    *smile* I don't want you to get your hopes up… he is purely a work colleague of the 'is he/isn't he' variety.

    Ferns

  8. Well nonetheless stories about whomever whether made up or real are a good time in my book. Generally I'm not good about telling stories so I leave it up to everybody else.

  9. AngelSam: “Well nonetheless stories about whomever whether made up or real are a good time in my book.”

    *smile* Good! I can tell any number of stories about all the 'whomevers' in my life!

    Ferns

  10. I don’t call that submissive.
    That is being a gentleman
    Shows he was raised with manners.

    I do that for my wife.

    1. *smile* It’s great that you do that for your wife, but I think you have a fundamental misunderstanding about how most work colleagues in professional environments interact if you think this is normal polite behaviour (on either of our parts).

      Ferns

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