posted by Ferns on femdom relationships, happy femdom

The lovely AudioDiva was kind enough to share the story of meeting her boy, and how their relationship developed. She sweetly added that ‘life is pretty fantastic’, and their story bears that out. It’s just lovely *happy sigh*.

Author: AudioDiva

I met My boy last year while I was in the middle of a bad break up from my vanilla husband. My ex & I were in the BDSM scene when we met 10yrs before, but our relationship had always been vanilla & there came a time when our differences made it impossible to continue. I felt very broken, but a week after he left, for the last time after a year of problems, I went to our local Munch just to see what the community had to offer, since my previous experience was in another city. I was in no way ready to consider actually playing or getting into a relationship, but I had been gone from the scene for quite a while & in order to join the local group you have to attend 2 Munches, so I figured the sooner I got started the better. I had also joined Fet, which is the location of our local group’s online interactions, and read a lot of different profiles.

At my first Munch in over 10yrs, I sat at a table with this very nice, rather odd looking and yet adorable man, who introduced himself. I talked to him & a couple of others at the table. Everyone was very nice, but he actually gave me his Fet name & asked if I would like to Friend him. When he said his name I was surprised that his was one of the profiles that I had read closely and someone I had hoped to meet eventually. During the Munch he also mentioned that he played country & oldies music every week at a club about an hour from my home. Being broken, and needing a change, I decided that this might be just what I needed. At the same time we began chatting regularly on Yahoo. It turns out he was in a similarly broken state, following the break up of a 6yr Ds relationship and some major health problems (seizure disorder with poor prognosis at the time, along with back injury).

I went to the dance the next week & was surprised to see that I was the youngest in the room by about 20yrs. As it turns out the dances are marketed to seniors & at 38 I hardly qualified, but at the first dance he introduced me to some lovely ladies, & the gentleman were excited to have someone who had no idea how to dance, but was willing to learn. He watched all this from the stage & over time he had fun listening to all the come-on lines that were used. The following month he house-sat for a friend and I spent almost every night with him there. This was where we had our first scene, which changed everything for me. For the first time, in a VERY long time, I felt truly desired & desirable & adored – an EXTREMELY heady experience. It also became clear that he was a service sub who needed someone to serve & a place to work on large projects and I was living alone in a 3500 sq. ft. home that needed a lot of work.

As his house-sitting drew close to an end, I learned that he was looking for a new place to stay. While it was still early in our relationship, I assured him that, regardless of what happened between us romantically, he would have a place to stay in my house. Soon after he moved in, 14 months ago, it was clear that my house had become Our Home. Even though we each have a bedroom, we have never spent a night apart in the house, we just move back and forth between the two (this way we each have room for our stuff & I get to keep my waterbed). We now also have a dedicated Dungeon/Playroom & a guest room, thanks to his hard work.

I work during the week. Before I wake up, he gets up and makes me my Chai, along with his coffee, brings it to me & when I wake we perv Fet & talk until I start getting ready to leave. I usually make breakfast, since cooking is my only household chore. While I am gone he makes the bed, cleans the kitchen, along with other areas of the house, he makes floggers or play furniture, and does yard work. When I get home I make dinner & we hang out together, talking about our days & watching TV. Then we may have a tickle war, or we may have sex, but we always cuddle when falling asleep. On the weekends we go to local events, both BDSM & musical.

This is from my Fet profile writings just a month after he moved in & it is still true:
“My boy is always looking for ways to make my life easier – Some examples include: fixing things (chairs, toilets, internet issues, faucets, the perfect study area), making the bed, doing the laundry, planning improvements on the house, preparing me drinks and snacks before I leave for work (cooking is not his area), keeping me on point/on time/focused, singing to me, holding me when life gets overwhelming, making me laugh, letting me cry, telling me how beautiful I am until I really believe it, supporting my decisions – even when he disagrees, offering me a different viewpoint, listening, respecting my limits, giving me a shoulder to fall asleep on, and of course the most amazing HOT kinky sex I have ever had, anytime I want (who knew daily ass worship would make me insatiable) and someone to experiment with/on – of course this is just a few of the things he did this week, so who knows what he will offer next week :) ”

Of course this all depends on how he is feeling. Because of his health, he has good days & bad days, but in 14 months I can count on 1 hand the number of days he didn’t make my Chai and he has never failed to cuddle. With minimal stress his health has actually stabilized somewhat.

I admire his determination not to let his disability define him. I commend the money he raises for others in need. I love listening to him sing. I appreciate hearing his observations on human nature, because he is extremely intuitive & observant. I particularly love how he makes me feel valued, adored and desired in such fundamental ways. It just gives me a thrill when he calls me Ma’am, especially when I can flash back to his face buried in my ass or seeing him bent over working on my car.

While we do play, he is primarily a service sub & partner, so we are looking at including others for play only. I need to practice more so I feel more confident & he isn’t always up to it. Communication is definitely the key & I was reticent to suggest it until I felt we were both secure in our relationship. He knows that I have no interest in replacing him, merely improving our lives & playtime.

Although we are VERY different, in upbringing, age, education, experiences etc… this absolutely works for me because we are building something unique together. We are getting more involved in our BDSM community, hosting events & attending more often. I am launching my career & he is an amazing source of support.

Like all relationships, it requires work, but I cannot imagine my life without him. While he is not fond of the term, I am proud to claim him as My boy.

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This post is part of an ongoing project to share happy, positive femdom relationship stories.  If you have a story and are willing to share it, please email it to me (ferns AT domme-chronicles DOT com).

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